I don’t like doing my hair
For starters, I’m lazy. And I hate using lots of different products (and can’t stand scented products). And let’s not forget that I spent my childhood in my mother’s hair salon. And because I always had long hair as a child, my mother and her twin sister (who was also a hairdresser) used to practice on me. This is a very long and convoluted way of saying that I really, really don’t want to spend a lot of time doing my hair.
Unfortunately, I have naturally curly/wavy (or sometimes just frizzy) hair. Which means that unless I want to look like a scarecrow, I really need to do something to make it (more or less) presentable.
So, even though I have a rather relaxed attitude about my hair these days, I have my hair professionally cut every 5 weeks. Without fail. Yes, even now, during the pandemic. I think that’s the least I can do to avoid the dreaded scarecrow look…
And I have been following the curly girl method (more or less) for almost two years. And when I say ‘following‘, I mean I avoid products containing sulphates and non water-soluble silicones and never brush my hair when it’s dry (because, you know, brushing curly/wavy hair makes it frizzy and you end up looking like a scarecrow again…).
I’m a bit more relaxed about following ‘the method’, though: I wash my hair with a shampoo containing sulphates maybe once or twice a month, to get rid of product buildup. And I never experiment with styling my hair. I did say I was lazy, didn’t I?
This hasn’t always been the case, though. I’ve spent most of my life hating my unruly hair and trying to turn it into something it clearly doesn’t want to be: silky smooth and straight. Yet, no amount of blowdrying made any difference. Such a waste of time.
Now, this is all the equipment I need on most days:
And now, because I’m lazy, I have adopted a very low-maintenance hair care routine: I wash my hair every other day, use tons of conditioner (which I apply using a paddle brush), then apply some leave-in conditioner and gel and let my hair either air dry or (if I’m in a hurry) blow-dry it with a diffuser.
And guess what? My hair is healthier and looks better. It still gets frizzy, though, at times. But that’s what curly/wavy hair is like: you never know what you’re going to get when you wake up in the morning. What your hair decides to do on a given day depends on the weather, or humidity, or the alignment of the planets, or who knows what. Who has time for all that shit?
So, this is my ‘routine’ now:
I wash and condition my hair, then gently towel dry it. Then I apply some leave-in conditioner and detangle my hair using the paddle brush.
Because my hair is very fine and thin, it dries really fast, within an hour if I don’t use any hair products. However, I usually apply either styling mousse or gel (or both if I really want to make an effort), so air drying takes a lot longer. If I use styling mousse, I use a comb to spread it evenly. If I use gel, I simply scrunch it around the curls and waves that are forming on their own, maybe do a few finger curls to add to the mix.
I don’t blow-dry my hair every day, only when I’m in a hurry. I prefer to let my hair air dry to avoid heat damage (I have very dry and fine baby hair; too much heat styling makes it brittle and straw-like).
However, when I blow dry curly hair, I do it on a low setting one section at a time. But I never spend more than 10 minutes doing this, which is a huge improvement from the old days when I used to spend 30 minutes trying to tame my frizzy mop into a sleek style.
The biggest difference between blow drying straight hair and curly hair is that you never use a hairbrush with curly hair. That’s because you don’t want to break up the clumps (= curls) but gently collect the curls in the cup of the diffuser and keep the hair dryer in place until the section is dry.
As the hair dries, the gel forms a cast around the curls to hold their shape. Whether you let your curly hair air dry or blow dry it, you need to break the cast when your hair is completely dry (but not before because, well, frizz, scarecrow, you get the idea).
The Curly Girl Method enthusiasts usually advice using a soft cloth (like an old t-shirt) or a bit of oil to break the cast, but I find that most hair oils are too heavy for my fine hair. So, I break the cast with my hands, swish my hair back and forth a bit, run my fingers through it, and I’m done.
This low-maintenance hair care routine has made me appreciate my hair more. I’m not saying that I’ve learned to love my moody curls (that would be asking a bit too much), but I think my hair and I have at least reached a truce. This means that I’ve stopped torturing my hair with extensive heat styling and my hair has stopped coming up with new and innovative ways of making me look like a scarecrow. I can live with that.
What’s your hair care routine like?
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