The Most Unromantic Valentine’s Day

Valentine's day

I don’t quite know what to think about Valentine’s Day…

The cynical Tiina wants to call it a marketing ploy to make people buy stuff they don’t really need or even want. And the sarcastic Tiina is mocking the idea of a ‘compulsory’, scheduled date night. The compassionate Tiina (yes, she makes a rare appearance once in a while) is worried about people having so impossibly high expectations and the inevitable disappointment that follows…

And the romantic Tiina? Sorry, you’re mistaking me for someone else.

vintage photos

The truth is that I’m probably the most unromantic woman in the world.

I don’t expect or need Valentine’s Day gifts or roses or romantic dinners; grand gestures and cheesy declarations of love just make me feel panicky…

And yet, my husband does want to buy me flowers (and I let him, not as often as he would like, but I’m learning…) and takes me out to dinner (every weekend, but we don’t call it ‘date night’, just dinner), and I make him eat apples every day.


I said I’m not a romantic woman, but I am a pragmatic one. You know, ‘an apple a day keeps the doctor away’…

And no, I don’t eat apples, I’m allergic to them. That’s how I can guilt-trip him into eating them: ‘I got them just for you: nice, organic apples, you should eat them before they go bad’…

Elegance Revisited

So, what are my plans for Valentine’s Day?

Well, my husband has booked a nice hotel, and dinner in a restaurant… He even said he would pack my exercise gear so we can try the hotel gym… (Am I being cynical thinking this is payback for all those apples???)

How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?


Photo credits: 

all photos from my mother’s photo album from the early 1960s. So, the dark-haired woman is my mother, but I have no idea who the other people are…



  1. Suzanne Carillo
    13 February 2015 / 12:15 am

    Ha ha. Even though you're not into romance it does sound like you have quite the romantic weekend planned. Don't forget the apples. Nothing says romance like a good crunchy apple. We don't celebrate Valentine's Day. Instead we celebrate the day we met which is on the 16th. We have done romantic dinners, hotels, vacations in the past. This year since we just got back from Cayo Coco I think just a homemade dinner will be good enough.bisousSuzanne

    • Tiina L
      13 February 2015 / 5:10 pm

      Yes, very romantic: a late-afternoon flight, dragging my luggage across town, two-hour time-difference… I hope I won't fall asleep in the middle of dinner…

  2. Natalia Lialina
    13 February 2015 / 5:24 am

    Your husband sounds like a romantic guy! Justin is very romantic, and I like it about him. I think even Tiina is a little romantic at heart – judging by the amazing pictures she selected for this post. 🙂 They tell an interesting story…I understand your point – of course V Day is purely commercial, and you'll never buy a true love in a store covered with chocolate. But! When you do find your true love… well, then just about anything is romantic! even apples! (hate them too, btw). Happy holiday, mini-break or just – enjoy your time with your true love! xxx

    • Tiina L
      13 February 2015 / 5:08 pm

      Yes, my hubby is romantic… Well, I guess anyone would be romantic, compared to me… but yes, I think he is romantic enough (but not too much, I'm relieved).

  3. Connie
    13 February 2015 / 11:27 pm

    This is a very romantic post. Valentine's Day falls right in the midst of a whole slew of family birthdays and there is so much cake and tissue paper floating around that I'm afraid Valentine's Day gets lost in the shuffle. Sad but true.

    • Tiina L
      14 February 2015 / 8:52 am

      That's a pity. But maybe it's better to celebrate love and happiness spontaneously, not on a given day. It would feel a bit more special then.

  4. Mrs C
    16 February 2015 / 8:47 am

    I don't do V-Day too.. mostly because I do not want to fall into the commercial trap. I forbade my husband from buying me over priced flowers, or go to a restaurant that have cliche 'flower for the girl' night. Not to say that I am NOT romantic, but I don't need a day to remind me that I love or loved by someone. That should be an everyday thing. By the way, we decide last minute on that day to go and try out this new fish shack (just a simple hut actually) we found by the beach, flip flop and all. Food was good, no roses or candle light. In fact, I don't think the guys there even know what V-Day was all about!

    • Tiina L
      18 February 2015 / 8:10 am

      I agree, love should be an everyday thing, it's the little things we do that matter. It seems that you had a perfect evening, though, especially as it was spontaneous.

  5. Ivana Split
    17 February 2015 / 8:51 am

    I like to celebrate Valentine's day my own and my husband didn't go to dinner, I prepared the lunch (and dinner) myself and I made him his favourite cake….We did went to a villa outside the town for a coffee and we spend some time in the nature…it was a lovely day.

    • Tiina L
      18 February 2015 / 8:12 am

      It sounds like the perfect day, and more personal than a stereotypical 'date'.

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