Decluttering never ends…
Yes, I confess: I watched the Marie Kondo show on Netflix. Yes, I bought her book and read it… So, am I now totally brainwashed: a KonMari convert, a decluttering fundamentalist?
The short answer: no.
Sure, for the past couple of weeks I’ve been feverishly decluttering like it’s my one and only passion in life. I’ve tossed (or recycled) dozens of bags of paper, books, clothes and other crap that had been hiding in the closets.
Of course, this is nothing new. I mean, I do this sort of thing more or less frequently, with varying levels of enthusiasm and results. There is the once-every-ten-years-or-so clear-out that usually leads to a total overhaul of the decor and a completely new look for the flat. And there is the annual (sometimes bi-annual) wardrobe clear-out. Hell, I’ve even read my fair share of books on decluttering!
However, none of this has never led to permanent change in the sense of making my flat (or my life) more organised. Sooner or later clutter creeps back in; as life gets busy, my closets get crowded and messy. And eventually I can’t stand it anymore and start decluttering, and the cycle goes on.
Breaking the cycle?
So, do I believe that KonMari could finally break the eternal cycle of mess and decluttering? That after this one, massive clear-out I would never have to declutter again, and my closets and wardrobes would remain tidy and organised for ever?
Err, no. Sorry, I’m just too cynical for that.
The fight against clutter is never-ending, and I’m sure I will have to toss a lot of stuff in the future, too. And I have certainly not given up buying stuff. However, we all know that today’s newly-acquired treasure is very likely tomorrow’s trash cluttering our valuable storage space…
Changing my attitude
So, even though I’m not expecting KonMari to provide lasting results as far as eliminating clutter is concerned, I do expect a change in my attitude towards my possessions. Let me explain.
The most important thing about KonMari is that it’s not about reducing your possessions, or leading a minimalist life, or never buying anything anymore. It’s about valuing what you’ve got and keeping and cherishing everything that ‘sparks joy’. And getting rid of the stuff that doesn’t.
And that is the fundamental difference between my old, more or less failed attempts at decluttering and my current undertaking: there’s a positive message at the core of this project. The aim of decluttering is to bring more joy into my life. And as a predominantly negative, the-glass-is-always-half-empty person, I could really use some more joy in my life.
The Verdict: Has KonMari helped me?
So, this time around decluttering has been a very positive experience, for two reasons.
First, because I don’t have to feel guilty for getting rid off (recycling, donating, tossing, whatever) all the crap I’ve been storing at the back of the closet. Never mind if it was a gift, or a bad (but expensive) purchase. The only relevant question is whether it brings me joy. And if it doesn’t, it has no place in my flat, or in my life.
And second, I’ve been able to make space for the stuff that actually does bring me joy. And once everything will be organised and displayed properly, I can also see everything I have. And then I will hopefully use / wear it more, too.
So, getting rid of stuff I neither need nor want has been almost a purifying experience, so far (the process is far from over). And I didn’t have to get rid of my beloved style and art books, or my somewhat eclectic collection of coffee mugs, or my numerous striped t-shirts. After all, they all bring me so much joy, and serve me well in my daily life.
Buying less but buying better has been my mantra for years, and I feel that this project has helped me refocus on that. Good quality, durability, sustainability, and fabulous design have always been high on my list of criteria when making purchasing decisions. Now I’m going to add joy to that list, too.
Would you like to see more examples of my decluttering efforts?
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