Casual Wear over 40…
Lately I’ve seen a lot of blog posts titled something like ‘How to wear (this or that) over 40’, or ‘Can you wear (this or that) over 40?’ And as much as I love the outfits and admire the bloggers posting them, I’m somewhat perplexed by this phenomenon. Yes, I said phenomenon: there are dozens of bright, creative and elegant over 40 (or over 50, over 60, over 70…) bloggers out there, defiantly declaring that they wear whatever the hell they want.
Fair enough. I would expect nothing more.
I’m just wondering why we should feel the need to declare our right / intention to wear whatever we want…
We’re grown woman, after all, and we don’t need to explain or justify the choices we make, about our wardrobes or life in general. So, let me be clear here: I see no reason to get on a soapbox declaring that I will defy some absurd expectations or ‘rules’ and wear whatever I want. Grown women don’t ask for permission, explain or apologise for the choices they make.
Yes, I’ve seen those articles / posts by (usually clueless) 20 or 30-something writers about clothing you should give up after an arbitrarily chosen age. So what?
I don’t read them, so why should it bother me what the writers of these articles think?
I mean, if the writers of the said articles at least bothered to explain what they themselves plan to do the day after the dreaded 30th, 40th, 50th, whatever birthday (toss everything in their wardrobes? pull a sack over their heads? jump off a cliff, maybe?), then they might be at least marginally entertaining. But no, they usually just list items that are suddenly off-limits (to people older than the writer, that is).
Or perhaps the writers of these articles think they will never reach the magical cut-off point themselves and therefore they don’t need such a plan…
Yeah, well, that sparks a lot more interesting discussion on the future (or rather lack of future) these writers seem to be planning, and in that case maybe they should talk to someone… I’m just not sure I’m the right person for that particular discussion as sympathy is not exactly my strong suit…
Anyway, as I’ve been able to dress myself for quite a long time already, I think I can manage to dress myself without advice for whatever time I have left on this earth. And given that I don’t like taking (or giving) unsolicited advice on anything, I’m certainly not going to take fashion advice from someone half my age, thank you very much. My motto is, and always has been, ‘if I want your advice, I’ll ask for it’. I see no reason to change this policy.
However, just to jump on the bandwagon (to use an American idiom), let me answer the question ‘how to wear a casual outfit over 40’, just for fun: it’s just clothes, for heaven’s sake, and you’re a smart woman. If someone is offended by your clothing choices, maybe they need to get a life. And you need to stop shouting that you can do whatever you want and just do it.
top: Next / trousers: Marks and Spencer / leather jacket: Karen Millen (old) /
shoes: Clarks / sunglasses: Chanel (old) / bag: Chanel / pendant: Tiffany & Co
What about you, where do you stand on unsolicited fashion advice?
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